Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. ~2 Corinthians 1:3-4
I am not a fan of pain - stress, sickness, injury, discomfort, relational disharmony, disappointment, grief - I’d love to be able to avoid all of it! I’d much prefer an abundant, comfortable, worry-free life, of peace, serenity and deep, meaningful significance. But who wouldn’t? Unfortunately, although it may be tempting to wish otherwise, the truth is that there really is no magic pill, no therapy session, no self-help book, no seminar--absolutely no systematic way of approaching life that can completely erase every trace of pain from the past, nor provide immunity from painful experiences in the future.
Much of the pain in my life, to be sure, has been self-inflicted - the natural consequences of my own unwise actions (or lack of action). Some pain has been inflicted upon me due to the pride, selfishness and insensitivity of others. I’ve also suffered pain from tragedy, like losing my mom to cancer when I was a teen, and later, watching my dad succumb to the darkness of Alzheimer's, and finally to death, resulting from a head injury sustained in a bad fall. And yet more bereavement, in the more recent loss of my wonderful, loving, supportive husband. Other pain has been yet more personal, in the form of a disabling, chronic illness that I still wrestle with daily.
Gratefully, though, in every painful circumstance (including pain caused by my own stupidity), God has been present to provide His comfort. And time and time again, I've seen Him use the pain in my life to keep my heart tender and to give me insight and sensitivity that have enabled me to come alongside of others in painful circumstances. The truth is, in spite of my intense aversion to pain, the pain in my life has equipped me to partner with God in helping others in ways I'd never have been able to help them had I not experienced similar pain, myself.
Does that mean I welcome pain? Not exactly. When pain strikes, I still find myself asking the proverbial "why!?" Nor does it mean I haven’t wrestled long and hard with many pain prompted questions that have sorely tested my faith to its very foundation. And yet this pain averse girl has to admit, it's precisely because of the pain I've walked through that some of the richest and most deeply meaningful experiences - and relationships - in my life have been possible.
And in taking time with God to reflect on my pain, I find that I've learned a few things about pain and the purpose that is borne from it. Thanks to what God has taught me, in spite of the inevitable tears and questions that I know are still likely to come when a new painful circumstance presents itself, I've learned to find hope in the midst of the writhing.
The Purpose of Pain
Trials come to test our faith;
They come to make us strong.
They come to produce endurance
That will last a whole life long.
Sometimes the pain we’re going through
Has come to purge the soul;
To make us more like Jesus;
To make us clean and whole.
Sometimes the pain is consequence
We’ve brought it on by choice
By choosing to do it “my way”
And ignoring wisdom’s voice.
But what about the pain or trial
That it seems we don’t deserve?
That comes not in response
To what we do or how we serve?
Does God really want me to suffer?
Does He care when I feel pain?
Where is His justice and mercy
When the innocent walk through the rain?
I’ve heard it often wondered,
“Why does pain come to the good?
This does not seem fair or just
Why doesn’t life go as it should?”
But let me ask a question;
Let me pose to you this quest:
What keeps a “good man” good?
What shapes his character best?
How can a man have empathy
Without feeling his own pain first?
And surely a man without compassion
Would take a turn for the worst.
And which man is the wisest –
One whose life is “easy street”?
Or the man who knows the struggles
Before rising above defeat?
Which one would you go to
For a sympathetic ear?
Which one would understand your pain
Your cares, your woes, your fears?
And who of us can really say
They know a “blameless” man?
Who never does ANY wrong –
And does ALL the good he can?
Still, what if I’m walking with God
Staying closely by His side
And He leads me through struggle or pain
Though I’m choosing in Him to abide?
I believe every pain has a purpose
Each trial has a place in His plan.
And if we truly care for our God
We’ll take both joy and pain from His hand.
There must be more to the purpose of pain
Than just what is good for me
There is a bigger picture
One I can’t always see.
Some of the pain we suffer
May not be for us at all
God may take us through some trials
To equip us to answer His call.
Sometimes I believe God leads us
Behind the enemy lines
To spy out the enemy’s strategy
To have sight where others are blind.
Perhaps you will walk through some fire
And find in the midst of that place
There are those you’ve been sent there to rescue
To set captives free by His grace.
So when you’re in sorrow or pain
And you don’t know what to do
Ask Him to show you His purpose
For the pain you’re going through.
No matter where God takes you
Believe this and never fear
He won’t waste your time or your pain
And He’s counting every tear.
Whether following His purpose brings joy
Or pain you don’t understand
Trust Him to see what you can’t
And never let go of His hand.
--written by Judy Lovejoy, circa 1997
